A poem from Maureen Holland...

We had a beautiful poem sent to us by one of our Retrack Introduction clients,  aged 70 years old.  We simply had to share it...

Saftey on a date...

 

Retrack Introductions always have your best interests in mind, so we have come up with some top tips to keep you safe on a date!

• Arrange to meet for coffee or lunch rather than dinner.
  
  Not only are you safer in the day but you don't waste time if it doesn't work. Help prevent any unwanted chasing (which might turn into stalking) by being polite but not leading them on. If you don't fancy them, just say '"You're a lovely person, but unfortunately, not what I was looking for."
  
• Stick to an area that's well lit with lots of people around.
  
  It's a good idea to meet in a place where you're known so the person you're with can be identified. Chat away to the waiter/waitress so it's obvious you've been seen with them.
   
• Don't invite strangers to your home and don't go to theirs until you know them very well.
  
• Trust your gut instinct and listen carefully to their relationship history. Are they using the service for the right reasons or are they just after sex?
  
  
• Give the details of your date to several friends - where you'll be, the time you'll meet, the person's name, phone number and address. Get them to phone you an hour into the date to check you're OK; you phone them a few hours later to report in again.

Ten Quick Dating Tips!

 

If you like someone you it is only natural that you may want to ask them on a date.

For men this is standard practise and for women, this process is becoming increasingly common. If you are thinking of asking someone on a date consider the following quick Retrack dating tips:

1. Why are you asking them out, is it for the right reasons and what do you expect as a result of them saying yes or no?

2. Be prepared that the person you ask may say no and in which case do not take the rejection personally.

3. When asking someone out choose your moment carefully and practise what you might say in advance so that you don't appear tongue-tied.

4. If the person you ask says yes, ensure you already have thought of a place, date and time for the date so that you display signs of thoughfulness.

5. Be prepared for the person asking why you want to date them so that you are able to flatter and create a sense of trust immediately. People can be wary and they may want to know some reasosn behind your request. Better, anticipate this by saying "would you like to come to dinner, I have always thought you are great fun..".

6. Make sure that your request for a date does not pressurize the person in any way. If they want to think about it, let them. But don't chase.

7. Make sure that when you ask someone on a date you smile and keep things fun and happy. Being confident and smiley will elicit a far more positive response.

8. If you ask someone on a date, make sure that you actually intend to go through with it. Standing people up is not allowed.

9. Try to avoid dutch-courage such as using alcohol to boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.

10. Don't ask someone out when they are in a group of friends. Timing is everything.

Good luck!

Retrack Introductions Wine Tasting Singles Event was fabulous!

Some of you may have heard about the Wine Tasting Singles event we hosted at The Hide Bar in Bury St Edmunds on Wednesday evening.

I am please to report it was a huge success. Around 30 people attended and joined in with the Wine Tasting, which was lead by a Mayfair Wine Merchant. So we all certainly learnt a lot!

We had two glasses in each hand and compared the different tasting wines. It was very enjoyable and for those who didnt wish to drink all of the samples, there was a bucket to dispose your wine into! 

The wine was accompanied by some light nibbles and some love themed goody bags. 

The event was organised by a range of people including The Best of Bury, Apparition Marketing & Design, Suffolk hampers and of course the Hide Bar.

Thank you to all who attended and those involved in making it happen!

How Much Do Looks Matter?

 

Some of you may have heard of the new dating series called Dating in the Dark (a show with 6 episodes in its first season.)

This leads us to thoughts about attraction, chemistry, and how much looks really matter to singles and dating couples?

In the show, a three men and three women date each other, in the dark. They all meet in a group setting initially in total darkness, then the singles each choose who they'd like to go on a private dark date with.

Then another date takes place where the singles get matched by compatibility, and the last date is singles' choice.

In the meantime the singles get to see an aspect of the opposite sex that is normally quite private, such as their luggage or a tour of their home, and they also are asked to draw what they think their favorite match looks like using a professional sketch artist.

At the end of the show, the singles choose one person they want to 'see' are shown each other, and then they decide if they'd like to date some more or go their separate ways.

Men who were adamant they'd never date a woman who was 'thicker around the middle' didn't care when they found a connection, women walked off the set because their date was an inch too short even though the mutual atraction was obvious, and people who made out with each other extensively in the dark and pegged their date to a tee in the sketch artist portion of the show suddenly questioned their interest when they saw their mystery date for the first time.

How important are looks to you, and would you not date someone based solely on how they present? Have you been able to change how people perceive you socially in order to attract someone? How did you do it?

Retrack Introductions wants to hear from you!