Be happy!

When you're excited about life, it shows... AND it rubs off on others. People gravitate toward happy people because they want the contentment that they have.

So wipe that scowl off your face, curb the cynicism, and radiate the most positive energy you can muster. (If you're finding this difficult to do, start the day by making a gratitude list of 5 things you're thankful for - it can be your health, your charmingly crooked smile, or even your dog's unconditional love.

This will definitely change your outlook.

Men are much more likely to approach a woman who is smiling, laughing, and happily engaged with her surroundings (rather than the frowning, hunched over lady muttering complaints under her breath... who'd want to spend time with HER?). Like the

"Got Milk?" ad campaign, try being a walking billboard for "Got Joy?"

Walking the walk

Have you ever seen the way City Goers walk?

They stride very quickly, head down, eyes on the ground (or anywhere that will prevent them from making eye contact of any kind), and plow through anyone and anything in their way to get to their destination as quickly and directly as possible.

Now I don't mean to pick on these people (I WAS one for years!). In fact, there's a REASON why most of us seem to walk the same way. With overwhelming crowds, crime, people begging for money, and solicitors trying to sell them something on every street corner, they don't want to ATTRACT any attention.

However, if you're in a safe, well-lit area and are familiar with your surroundings, I want to encourage you to remember the words "Don't walk like a City Walker."

Try walking this way instead: shoulders back, head up, straight posture, moderate (not fast!) pace, arms swinging slightly. You want your walk to say "I'm confident" and "I'm open to possibilities."

If you're finding it difficult to cultivate a confident walk, try this exercise. (It might sound a little goofy but believe me, it works!

Pick a song with an upbeat theme and a good, moderate beat. This is going to be your theme song. (Can't think of one?

Here are 3 suggestions: "Put Your Records On" by Corinne Bailey Rae,
"Suddenly I See" by KT Tunstall, or "The Sweet Escape" by Gwen Stefani.)

Load the song on your iPod or pop the CD in your walkman and take it with you for a "practice walk." Walk to the beat (this is subtle- you're not DANCING, you're just getting a good pace to your steps), breathe, enjoy the lyrics, think positive thoughts, and smile. You'll be amazed at how walking to your theme song will give you a boost.

Now the next time you're out and about, I want you to remember how you felt with your theme song. Hear the song in your head and walk as if it's playing. Pay attention to how your face feels. Are you scowling without even meaning to? If so, soften the muscles in your face and allow your mouth to curl up ever so slightly into an almost-smile.

Widen your eyes just a bit so that you appear awake, interested in your surroundings, and excited about the world around you.

Now notice how people who pass you begin to take notice of you. It's subtle, but I guarantee that those who aren't completely lost in their own little worlds will acknowledge you in some way.

Men might even smile back or say hello! (If this doesn't happen right away, don't be discouraged. Just practice this confident walk wherever you go from now on, and you will soon notice a difference.)

Step out in style!

If you really want to attract men, you might need to step up your style a notch... and NOT for the reason you may think. I recommend wearing a colorful and flattering outfit not just because you'll turn heads (though you WILL), but because of the way it will make YOU feel.

Here's an illustration: When I get up at the crack of dawn to walk my dog, I usually roll out of bed into a sweat suit, throw my hair into a ponytail, and hide behind my biggest, darkest sunglasses. I KNOW I look like crap, so I pray that I don't run into any neighbors who want to strike up a conversation or pet my dog. And usually, no one even looks my way.

When you put less than your best effort into your appearance, not only will you blend into the background, but you probably won't feel up to meeting someone new anyway.

When you look your best, however, it changes your whole demeanor. You know the phrase "take PRIDE in your appearance?"

Well, when you're proud of how you look, your posture will straighten up, you'll feel more confident, you'll be much more likely to make eye contact, smile, and possibly even strike up a conversation with someone new.

That energy (fueled by self-esteem) will be incredibly ATTRACTIVE to others.

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